Category: A.D.D.

Wisdom Wednesdays

I recently saw an inspiring post at a new blog I discovered called The Art of ADD  that was full of great quotes. Many of these are just great quotes in general, but the author also includes many that are specific to, or is especially applicable to an ADD life.

I might not have the time to search out hundreds of quotes for you, but I can absolutely share some from the existing list and tell you my thoughts, how I’v found it helpful. My hope is to inspire and encourage (hopefully) weekly.

And so, please welcome the addition of “Wisdom Wednesdays” to this humble site! {audience clap}. We’ll start with something easy, and someone that many of you already know and respect…

“Positive thinking will let you do everything better than negative thinking will.”

Zig Ziglar

Now, I think that most people have trouble with self-esteem and negativity, however that is never more true than when you’re talking to an adult ADDer…so many of us have had trouble with learning and experienced personal defeat in so many areas that it becomes easier to just tell yourself you “can’t” do something because of your ADD/ADHD.

self-talk02Not only will this negative self-talk never help, it is actually self sabotaging. “Self talk” consists of those things that your inner voice tells you. You know, that constant stream of diaologue that happens in your head? Yeah, it’s that…but you have the power to CHOOSE how you think!  It takes some time to recalibrate, but is so worth it.

Told  that we are dumb, lazy or stupid when we had trouble with a task or school asignment as children, we began to believe the lies we were told, not realizing that we may have a challeging barrier to success, there are tools and resources to help us combat the battle against our own negativity.

You can, and will make the change. And when you do, you’ll likely be empowered to get more done, and have more success with the things you do try. If it’s something you struggle with, I encourage you to do a google search for negative self talk, as there quite a few resources for you and this is a constant area of struggle for ADDers.

Good luck to you, friends as you work on bringing more positivity to your life!

~Jessica

P.S negative self is something that I struggle with personally. I don’t claim to have it all together…  I am just here to bring light to some of the struggles that those with ADD/ADHD have throughout ther lives.

Blog Notes: This quote and others found at: http://www.theartofadd.com/2012/11/16/50-inspirational-quotes-for-adders-to-live-by/ Picture found at http://consciouscollectives.co.uk/images/self-talk02.jpg

Remembering the Positives

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“Work with whatever tools you may have at your command, and better tools will be found as you go along.” Napoleon Hill

After a week when my shortcomings seemed glaringly obvious at every turn, I was reminded that my ADHD is more than just a series of challenges. No, it’s more than that. It gives me the opportunity to do and think and be differently than others are able. And in that sense, ADD is a tool. An asset. Better yet, it’s a gift. The trick is to harness that tool appropriately The question is, what are the benefits? And how do I use them? For me, it means I’m always interested in many things…yes, that means there is sometimes a lack of focus. But it keeps things interesting and allows me to respond to situations with a wide array of background information that might not seem related. But that added — and often creative –perspective is oh so powerful. While I might not be able to focus wonderfully on one task for an inordinate amount of time, the number of things constantly swimming around in my head actually allow for better multitasking…I could point to the number of activities that I attempt to do in the car while driving as an example, but that might get me in trouble. 😉

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Sure it leaves messes behind and can be frustrating, but, for today, I’m choosing to be thankful and remind myself of the positives. And sometimes that choice makes all the difference in the world. Do you, or someone you care about have ADD/ADHD? Have you thought of it as an asset or  just a challenge? I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments below!

Gluten Free “Carrot” Cake – aka brown butter cake.

The other day I made my first attempt at what I’d deem a carrot cake. Now, normally I have a hard and fast rule about all desserts containing chocolate. But this exception was allowed for three reasons:

  1. The originally posted cake was beautiful and made me want to try my hand at it, even if I didn’t go the fresh flowers route.
  2. My dad loves carrot cake and his birthday is in May
  3. Boyfriend’s work friend asked for non-chocolate (!?!?!?!?) cupcakes.

So, when I ran across this beautiful post, I couldn’t help but pin it and mentally remember that it was something to try.

And I’m glad I did. As usual, it took me a bit longer than I anticipated. But I think that the results were worth the wait….and the mess.

Have I mentioned how neat and tidy I am when I bake?

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My mom tells me I have a special gift…

Both she and Boyfriend attempt to contain the tornado-like effects, depending on which kitchen I’m in. But be careful, there are usually casualties. And invariably, there will be flour of some variety, frosting, and whatever I’ve chopped  recently in small (or sometimes large) quantities on me.

Yes, this is baking. ADD style.

So, right…back to the cake.

The list of ingredients might, at first seem a bit long and daunting. But when you take a closer look, it’s not so bad. In fact, what I love about this recipe is that there are no weird, hard to pronounce ingredients, unlike most gluten free options.

The flour was primarily almond with a little bit of coconut. Which means they’re high in protein as well.  Did I mention that there was no refined sugar, either? #awesome

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With all of the many healthful ingredients, I’ll be honest…I was concerned that they would taste healthy as well. So, I kept my mouth shut and just told everyone they were carrot cake…and it worked, by golly! Everyone loved them (including me…we won’t talk about how many of these wound up in my belly…without frosting they totally count as healthy breakfast muffins….right?)

As usual, though, by the end of the process I was exhausted and had no desire to clean up whatsoever, much to the chagrin of other kitchen users. It most certainly did not help that somewhere in the baking wait time, I was put in charge of this little munchkin…

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Now, really…who could possibly blame me for leaving that mess? I had a sweet sleepy boy that needed holding. Priorities, right? Right.

In any case, the kitchen did eventually return to a semi-organized state, though I can’t take all the credit. It’s that lack of focus problem coming into view again. But that’s ok, I’m learning to harness those times of focus and use them for my benefit.

And in the meantime, I’ve found a great recipe to share with y’all. I topped them with a tasty cream cheese frosting, though it wasn’t as stiff a consistency as the recipe claimed it would be.

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These weren’t aren’t exactly an example of my finest decorating skills, but they were delicious nonetheless. If you get a chance to try these….enjoy! They’re totally worth it. 😉